Is being the reliable one drowning you think about the last year that you have spent being extremely reliable taking every task handed to do you and without fail getting it done, you my friend are the reliable employee, mom, sister, daughter, wife, volunteer and you are probably feeling the pinch of guilt and resentment.
How are you going to get rid this feeling?
The truth is sometimes you have to actually recognize that you are in charge of what you think in any given circumstance. These thought no matter what the situation is trigger the feelings you end up feeling.
For instance your boss calls you and says there's a deadline. You immediately think that you have to be there for your boss because he asked. You never ask yourself why he called you; well the truth is he knows that you're incredibly reliable and that you're going to get the work done no matter what. That very morning your school calls and says your child has had a minor mishap at school and for safety sake they have sent them to the local hospital for examination, of course you immediately think you have to drop everything and be there, but you have this deadline.
Now what?
Your feelings of guilt and responsibility are driving you and there you are reacting by loading up all of your technology and rushing to be with your child and meeting the work deadline while you have time, does this sound familiar? We know that life just happens to work that way sometimes and these are just one off situations but now take a look over the past year; if you like others who are busy women keep a calendar of things that go on in your life you know that you have a variety of things scheduled but it's what you don't see that is actually causing the stress the guilt and the resentment that you are feeling and it is starting to take a toll on your life.
I want to share with you some ways in which I learned to constrain my actions or reactions and learned to create more balance for myself. The first thing I learned to believe whole heartedly was that I was completely in charge of all of my thinking, I learned to ask more questions when presented with situations by others that seemed to be emergencies or urgent from their perspective. I then learned to prioritize what I thought and how I felt about those situations and act in a way that gave me the best result. it sounds simple but it certainly was not easy.
In order for me to get to the point where I do my own I how to really trust myself and believe that in any given circumstance or situation other people’s feelings and thoughts about it could not influenced me I had to learn to trust my phone thinking first it was only when I learn to trust that that I was able to ask better questions about what really was important it's in this way that I am teaching others to gain clarity and awareness of their thinking.